Dating is a challenge at any age and for both women and men. Ladies worry about
your hair, your make-up and whether you look fat. The men worry is their tie
straight (if they wear one), do they have enough money, and whether or not you
will like him. Basically both sexes are worrying about whether they are liked
and accepted.Believe it or not there are things that you can do to make your
date less stressful. Make your date feel comfortable. If you are throwing
questions at your date, they may feel like they are on trial. Let the
conversation happen naturally and most of your questions open-ended. This means
that while yes and no questions while used sparingly, are fine, they can lead to
stilted conversation and tension. Talk about all kinds of topics and try to
engage your date in the conversation. Never force conversation.Heres one you
hear all the time. Relax, be yourself, youll be fine Share your interests but
listen to your date too. Both of you will probably be nervous so try to relax.
One of the most important things you can do is be on time either to pick-up your
date or be ready to be picked up.There are things you should definitely not do
on a date. Dont talk about yourself all night and dont complain and whine about
your ex, your date will wonder what you will say about them. Dont ask too many
questions-its not the Inquisition. Dont be late picking up your date or in
getting ready. Most importantly, dont forget to thank your date for a good
time.Dating is about getting to know your date and letting them get to know you.
Try doing something different that you havent tried up until now. Alternate
deciding where you are going, it could relieve a lot of tension and you just
might learn something very interesting.One other very important, in fact, it
could be most important, is dating safety. There are so many ways to meet
someone now that its fairly easy for anyone with less than good intentions to be
able to follow through on them. The suggestions that follow while addressed to
ladies, men pay attention because reality is, is that you too could be a
target.For the first few dates go to public places and not isolated ones. If you
are meeting someone that you have been talking to online there are several
things you can do to keep yourself safe aside from meeting in a very public
place. Dont go alone, have a friend or two go to the same place and sit where
they can see you and your table at all times.You might consider this even if you
have met your date already. The nice guy you met at the library may seem sweet
but he may not be. If you have any kind of uncomfortable feeling, listen to your
gut and do what you have to do to be safe.Try to learn about your date. Where
does he live? What kind of work does he do? If he doesnt want to tell you I
wouldnt consider dating him a second time. He may be very nice and the most
loving person but be careful if he wont share some personal information. I
suppose giving too much information could be a warning signal too.Youve heard of
date rape drugs well they can not only be put in alcoholic beverages but in
soda, tea, coffee, or water. Actually they can go in almost any beverage. This
is one reason to have someone you know nearby so that if you leave the table
they can kind of keep an eye the table (and your date). Watch how much alcohol
you consume. You want to keep your wits about you at all times and if you are
driving this is even more important.Use any safety devices that you can (and
ones that are legal). The most important tool anyone can have is a cell phone,
whether man or woman your can break down or be in a crash. The cell phone will
bring help that much quicker. You should have it programmed so that you only
have to press one number for 911.Many can be programmed that when you hold down
a particular key 911 is automatically dialed. Most cell phones have GPS
capability. Pepper sprays, high decibel personal alarms are two more safety
tools. Check with your local police and attorney to see what is acceptable in
your community. Many areas have banned pepper sprays.Other general safety advice
whether dating or not is never go anywhere unfamiliar alone. Always wear your
seatbelt. If someone grabs you with a weapon and ordered to go with him or her
it is suggested by some that you take a stand right away. Scream, yell, bite, or
kick or do anything you have to do to become safe.Go for the groin and the eyes.
Shove the heel of your hand into the assailants nose very hard. Yell Fire!!
People will react to fire rather than help.This next thing is something to do in
almost any situation not just dating. When giving out personal information to
someone be careful how much you tell them.I remember when keeping yourself safe
wasnt such a serious matter. There are new ways to overpower someone and to
cover up a crime. Keep yourself safe, and lastly always let someone know where
you are planning to go and if you can the person that will accompany you.(c)
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